Hi, I have a confession to make.
I masturbate and I am not ashamed. I am not blind, I don’t have hairy palms, I don’t even have penile shrinkage and I don’t have erectile dysfunction as well. My body is just fine as yours. I am happy and I am not shameful of this act.
I have always been thinking about writing this, but for some reason or the other, I could never write it. But, today is not the same day — let’s get talking about masturbation and get the burning questions out of the way. Also, cross some of the misconceptions off our list of worries when it comes to masturbation.
If in case you don’t know what masturbation is (which is very unlikely), let’s have a look what Wikipedia says, “Masturbation is the sexual stimulation of one’s own genitals for sexual arousal or other sexual pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm. The stimulation may involve hands, fingers, everyday objects, sex toys such as vibrators, or combinations of these.”
Simply put, it is all about touching yourself for sexual pleasure. And those who are already feeling uncomfortable reading this, please understand it is completely normal to masturbate — irrespective of the gender, irrespective of whether you have a partner or not. This one-person party won’t even give you STD or cause unwanted pregnancy. And guess what, even animals masturbate.
According to a survey that surveyed 1,012 people in the US, music is the best and the most effective form of overall self-care, while masturbation turned out to be the second most effective form of self-care for the respondents. And it’s not just the US, people in different parts of the world do it and it’s a natural activity that many people enjoy. Many claim that it even helps them discover their sexual preferences, learn about their body and provide themselves with pleasure.
Here in this article, we are not emphasizing on getting your hand inside your pants with a pack of tissues by your bed or having a big collection of vibrators or fleshlight products and moan all night. Rather, we are clearing some of the misconceptions related to masturbation. And moreover, we are trying to make people understand that it is important to talk about things related to sex — whether it’s with your son, daughter, or your partner. You don’t have to have conversations about masturbation every day over a cup of tea and samosas, but the problem with us is that we almost never talk about it.
What Is Orgasm?
Before jumping right into the truths and myths about masturbation, let’s understand what is that pleasure that drives people to get their hands inside their pants — orgasm.
Also, I would again request all of you to not to give me looks when I am talking about orgasm — trust me, it is as normal as our daily breathing, eating, bathing cycle.
Orgasm is that sensation when we reach the peak of sexual excitement. Both men and women get orgasms and this sensation also includes a white discharge, a white fluid that comes out from the vagina or penis. Also, our body gets to feel a rhythmic muscular contraction in the pelvic region and the entire process is controlled by the involuntary nervous system.
But Why Orgasm Is Such An Amazing Feeling And We Like It So Much?
It is all because of two hormones called dopamine and oxytocin. When you reach orgasm, your brain releases the oxytocin hormone which is also known as the bonding hormone or the cuddle hormone. So, now you know why you were feeling so loved and cuddling with your partner last night.
Talking about the role of dopamine, while you feel all loved, you also feel relaxed and calm and that is because of dopamine that floods our brain. Dopamine is also known as the feel-good hormone, and this is the same hormone our brain releases when we consume things like chocolate, cocaine, caffeine, nicotine etc.
Myths About Masturbation
It is undoubtedly one of the vastest topics in this entire world, and it would take hundreds and hundreds of pages to cover all the bits. However, we have tried to at least give you an idea of what happens in our body and brain. And now, we are finally busting some of the myths about masturbation.
Myth 1: Blindness
Myth 2: Hairy palms and bald Head
Myth 3: Become impotent later in life
Myth 4: Erectile dysfunction
Myth 5: Penile shrinkage
Myth 6: Low sperm count and infertility
Myth 7: Mental illness
Myth 8: Physical weakness
Even though society today has moved past most of the barriers and pretend to accept things, there a significant number of people who still believe that masturbation is a taboo and is not healthy. However, most of the things that you hear about masturbation are nothing but propaganda. Simply put, people who have a certain thought about masturbation (mostly negative) — whether in terms of religious, spiritual, or cultural, they want you to believe in that too.
According to modern science, Masturbation has a number of health benefits. Masturbation helps you deal with anxiety, it reduces your stress, it helps you get better sleep, help you love your body, improves your self-esteem, it even helps in relieving menstrual cramps and muscle tension etc. Also, IT KEEPS YOU UNDIES DRY WHEN YOU ARE ASLEEP — Prevents Nightfall. If masturbation is not a win-win, then I don’t know what is.
When Masturbation Is Harmful?
There is not a certain number that people should follow when it comes to masturbation. The numbers are completely different from every person.
Talking about when it is harmful, then let me tell you, “everything in excess is harmful, and it’s the same with masturbation.” Masturbation is definitely bad when it becomes an addiction, when you take your body to an exhausting level just for the pleasure of a few seconds.
If masturbation is disturbing your daily life schedule or your daily functioning then it is harmful. So, do not make it a habit, masturbate when you are sexually aroused. And Yes, IN YOUR PRIVATE SPACE and NOT IN A PUBLIC PLACE..!! Also, don’t forget to wash your hands after the session.